the memories you make in college should:
be reckless, but not to the point of risking your life. However, the best memories are made when you’re experiencing these wild experiences that can only give you that thrill of walking the tightrope of life. But, there are ways to be reckless that doesn’t contain life threatening hazards.
be crazy; it’s your last chance to be. Once you leave college, the safety net is gone. Be crazy as in late night adventures with friends, skinny dipping in the ocean, ordering one of everything at Mcdonalds and squishing them all together like epicmealtime, creating a sculpture in the middle of the fast food restaurant. Not crazy like running naked down the street, stealing everyone’s left shoe with foam seeping out the sides of your mouth.
be something you’d tell your kids someday
be moments that bond you with your college mates for life-experiences that only they will understand
be something you can look fondly upon, but doesn’t leave any traces of regret. Don’t let regret be one of the emotions you feel when you look back at college.
most importantly, make you happy
I was never great at comforting people. But over the years I learned that it’s better to make an effort than to say right off the bat, “I’m not very good at this”. It’s just hard not to comfort people with the cliches: “everything will be okay”, “things will be better soon”, or “its not your fault the girl had bigger boobs than you”. Yeah same old, same old. What I learned, most importantly, is that if you truly care about that someone, you will make the effort to do whatever it takes to help them out. It doesn’t matter if it’s a small gesture like a hug or a hand on the back, or a big one, such as being there personally to help them through it.
I don’t know why a bad reputation is better than no reputation.
It’s harder to change someone’s opinion of you (especially a bad one).
When you have no rep, you are basically a clean slate. There isn’t a label defining you yet like: bitch, slut, or even strumpet (if you’re into that).
I guess in a way, college is that clean slate. Unless you’re going to college with all your friends, it’s basically starting anew and not letting the past define you. What you were in middle school, or in high school, isn’t important. College is all about remaking yourself—a better self. It’s about meeting new people, making connections, networking, getting those social skills, and growing as a person. If you stick by those high school friends, you’re not going to change much.